Uplevel your LinkedIn

LinkedIn is THE place recruiters go to fill the jobs you want. Think of it as a 24/7 networking event (sounds SO FUN, right?). It’s not that you need to be there, schmoozing, all the time (hallelujah). You just need to make sure you’re showing up, looking good, and clearly explaining who you are and what you do.

Here’s a summary of five basics I share with clients for getting started, and another five ideas to easily up your game and attract recruiters now.

LinkedIn Basics

Set your settings

On your profile, there’s a button where you can “edit public profile and URL”. Make your LinkedIn profile your name, then use the link in your other materials during your job search (headers on resume and cover letter, email signature).

Before you start to tinker with your profile, go to “settings and privacy” under your profile and choose whether you want your changes to be visible.  You can change it after if you want.

And if you’re actively looking, let recruiters know! There’s an option on your profile to “let recruiters know you’re open” and give details about the jobs you want.

Nail your headline 

Some experts call this the most important piece of content in your profile. Three words, guys: Make It Sparkle. Replace “Communications Manager at X Co.” with “Accomplished Communications Professional ; Award-Winning Campaigns ; Putting Strategy into Words”. Want inspiration? There’s a fun headline generator OVER HERE.  And if you’re not sure how to “brand yourself”, beware being too generic (HERE’S a great take on the perils of that). If you want a soulful career expert to help you figure it out, get in touch with ME over HERE🙂

Check your photo

I want you to love your photo. If you don’t, it’s time for a re-take. Your photo should show your face, look sharp, look smart, and show you as your best professional self. Bonus points for adding a background photo that’s a nod to your experience and vision.

Summary = Story 

Use your summary to tell a compelling story. Think strategically: what aspect of me and my experience will stand out to my target employers? Write that story. I love the examples in this article by Muse OVER HERE.

Think broad 

A lot of people get hung up on the Experience section (they ask: is it a copy/paste of my resume? No). For most of your past jobs, a sentence (or two) works. It’s about showing where you’ve worked and the type of work you’ve done, so briefly summarize your role and impact. Then complete the other sections (the more, the better): education, certifications, volunteer experiences, interesting projects, etc. Each one is an opportunity for you to show up in search results. Boom.

Up Your Game… now that you’ve got the basics covered, here are five more tips to attract recruiters to you.

Make it interesting

Take advantage of the medium, and add links to articles you’ve written, videos of you or the projects you’ve worked on, or shareable presentations. Make your profile as fun and interesting as possible, even if you feel like your current work isn’t either of those things.

Endorsements & recommendations

Social proof is powerful. Most people have a strategy, where they either start recommending people in the hope that some will reciprocate, or they directly ask . If you want endorsements and recommendations, pick the strategy that feels right for you.


Build your network: practices vary, but generally if you’re sending an invitation to connect to someone you don’t know, include a short note on why you like what they do. If people ignore you, just move on. It’s the internet, there’s no rule book. Just be friendly and courteous and don’t take anyone else’s response or lack thereof, personally.


This is a marketplace for talent. If you want to be visible, be visible. An easy starting point is to like and comment, or share others’ posts. Then once you’re feeling warmed up…


Want to share your ideas with the world and show that you’re a thought leader in your space? Start posting. Think of it as an open-source news platform where you are your own editor. Try hitting the “write an article” button and see what happens.

To re-cap, imagine an avatar of your most confident, charismatic, competent professional self, heading off to that 24/7 virtual networking event. Take some time to work on THAT profile with these ten tips. Then sit back and let the magic happen.

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Do this before goal setting

Whether you set goals annually on your birthday, in January, in September, the first of every month, any and all of the above… our culture loves to future-focus.

It’s exciting to ask yourself: What do I want to DO next, WHO do I want to BECOME, WHERE do I want to FIND MYSELF in a year or five?

Stop right there… 

Here’s what many of us miss: Where we’ve come from – and how we feel about it – has massive influence over our ability to manifest our future plans.

I am amazed how often clients let me in on significant unresolved self-sabotage without even realizing it, and in the form of a whisper.

It sounds like this: “I should have majored in education instead of business”.


“I stayed in that relationship for way too long”.


And I hear this:

Someone judging themselves, hard.  Someone beating themselves up regularly.  Someone living in the belief that they made (and make) “wrong” choices. Someone missing their power when it comes to making decisions for their future.

Someone lacking trust in themselves and their ability to navigate tough choices.

Because they believe there are right and wrong choices, and they’re terrified of choosing wrong, AGAIN.

Here’s the truth folks… are you ready?

There are no right and wrong choices.

There are only YOUR choices.

Your major was meant to be your major.

Your relationships lasted the exact right amount of time.

If you’re still reading, try this:

Imagine your decisions are a joint effort between you and the invisible forces around you at all times – the opportunities that appear, the doors that open and close in front of you, the instincts that tug at you if you listen.

It’s a dance and we’re all just learning, just experimenting, all the time.

Tune in.


Have self-awareness.

Have self-compassion.

Heal your relationship with the path that got you here, and you will pave the next section with confidence. 

How do we heal our confidence when it comes to making life choices? How do we get in our own corner?

Before you write down any new future goals, I challenge you to look at the stories you’re telling yourself about your past goals, direction and decisions.

And lean into accepting your whole journey up until this moment as YOU making YOUR choices in the best way you knew how to at the time. No judgment, no “wrong ” moves, just YOUR moves.

You built the road to where you’re standing. Own it and love yourself for it, even the sharp turns where there is foot-deep debris on either side, the parts where you couldn’t breathe for the smog, and the long stretches with terrible views.

This is getting in your own corner.

Do this, and move forward with light, power and purpose.

Bonus! Try these journal questions:

  1. What past decisions am I still judging myself for?
  2. What intentions were at play when I made those decisions?
  3. How can I show compassion to that former version of myself?

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Write your leadership manifesto

How does anyone learn anything? By getting their hands dirty and figuring it out.

So, even though I’ve been studying leadership in the workplace for a decade, dipping my toe in here and there…

I learned to lead over the past year, because of my family, because I had to.

At our house, I’m the lead parent. My partner is wonderful. And we have agreed that I’m the lead parent.

The primary steward of two special souls, entrusted to me to raise on this earth. A sacred privilege. Significant.

I am responsible for feeding them and ensuring they get enough sleep. I identify when they’re not well and make sure they get treated.

I set boundaries. I draw the lines around which books and toys and activities and friends and caregivers and screens and language we do and don’t engage with.

And as the lead parent at our house, I have cobbled together what I stand for in that role.

My leadership manifesto.

Because after stumbling through it for the last year, questioning whether I was doing it right, when everyone, everywhere (literally) is doing it differently, I needed to find my feet as a leader. And stand on them.

It includes things like: They chose me as their mother. We don’t meet one person’s needs at the expense of another’s. Humans before schedules. One of my jobs is to demonstrate living the kind of aligned life I want for them… the list goes on.

So, why am I telling you?

Because I want you to think about your leadership manifesto, whether you’re leading children or a company or a team or a wine club.

Get clear on what you stand for. Get empowered in your role. Define yourself as a leader, in whatever aspect of your life feels most in need of steady, empowered, authentic leadership RIGHT NOW.

Because you were made for this. And because the clarity and confidence you create will carry you through the up days, the down days, and all the days in between.

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Legal cannabis and permission to change

I went through a bit of a rebel stage in high school. When I say rebel, I mean I got straight A’s and I knew how to roll a joint (I had some practice). It’s all relative.

Over time, my friends and I got into other things like working 24/7, spinning and a glass of wine after work. These activities were socially acceptable and could be done relatively shamelessly around other humans.

Basically, we changed.

It happens.

This week cannabis became legal in Canada.

And now the whole country has to figure out what this means. Before there was a clear message of “it’s BAD,” and now we’re like “OK, maybe it’s fine”.

It’s a massive perception shift. It’s calling on us to think about how we think. It’s challenging the views many of us never questioned before.

Imagine you invested years enmeshed in a certain way of a thinking, pursuing a specific career path, believing it was right for you, only to discover it actually wasn’t? Life marched on and you became different.

People tell me this story all the time. They feel like they did it wrong. They didn’t.

They just changed.

And for a lot of people, change is difficult.

A government takes an illegal substance and says “never mind, enjoy!”. A focused, motivated human looks at the road ahead, the road they chose and sprinted down, and feels nothing.

How do we reconcile the before and after of such a cosmic shift?

We pause. We observe. And we come to a view.

Then later: We pause. We observe. And we allow that view to change.

If your views aren’t changing, ask yourself whether you’re pausing and observing enough. If your career path doesn’t seem to fit anymore, allow yourself to come to a new view about where you need to be.

Let the old perceptions, the old truths, burn away (see what I did there?).

And let the new truth settle in.

Having come of age in a time when this little plant was vilified literally to the point of criminalization, where there was a real societal risk involved with buying and consuming it, I wonder, how will legalization change how our kids discover and potentially engage with it?

Here’s what I hope: They’ll know more than I did. Like, the effect it could have on their development, how much is too much, and what’s a safe(r) way to consume it. I hope legalization will be accompanied by education – and I’m already seeing it.

I also hope this: If they choose to try it, they can try a version that was grown responsibly, and with proceeds contributing to government revenue which funds healthcare, education and security rather than human trafficking and violence.

I hope that post-legalization, it won’t always be about that rebellious image, the “bad kid” who is “acting out” and getting high. I hope we can keep the entrepreneurial ones – bless their rebel hearts – from getting into selling this stuff out of their backpacks. They can do their homework (or start a legitimate business!) instead.

I hope that you too can step back, look at your path with grace and an open mind, and accept that it may need to change.

Then, have the common sense and courage not to stand in your own way. Your continued evolution is your human birth right. At work, at home, everywhere. Let it happen.

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Three career crossroads: which one are you at?

Ever been stuck on a big career decision – feeling out of alignment, confused or paralyzed? Over and over, I see three major decision points that stump us. Three career crossroads that we stop and stand at, gazing around… some of us for a long time.

Let’s stop doing that! Chances are if you’re reading this, you’re taking a pause at one of these crossroads. Let’s figure out which one and get you moving…

The first crossroads: what work should I be doing? 

You may think this is a question for teenagers before they choose their major, and it is. But it resurfaces, often several times as we grow into our careers and our lives; when you’ve been through change; when you’ve grown significantly; when you feel out of alignment with your path.

Asking this question doesn’t mean you did it wrong up until now. You didn’t mess up! It means you’re evolving. It means you’re brave.

How do we solve it? I like to start deep by understanding values. Your values are the underpinning of all your choices. So, when you consciously understand your values, you will simplify your choices. For example, one of my top values is evolution. I am obsessed with growth and change. I am surrounded by plants and tree images all the time. So, what work should I be doing? Work that focuses on helping people evolve.

The second crossroads: what’s my next move? 

This is a career transition. It’s what happens when you’ve outgrown your role or your manager or your company or your colleagues or your least favourite spreadsheet.  You’re ready to change…. change jobs, change companies, go to flex, go to ownership, go to parenthood, go back to work, CHANGE.

Remember outgrowing your sneakers as a kid? It’s uncomfortable. Often, we need to get really uncomfortable and feel really out of alignment, before we are willing to take the risk of stepping into the unknown. Our human brains are wired to keep us safe and doing what we know, so it can be a BATTLE, even when you know on some level, that it’s time.

Whole generations before us simply avoided this; now, the economy of work is much more fluid. In a lot of ways, we are always on the job market, always marketing ourselves. Some people embrace this and others don’t; it’s fine. But when you want a change – when your feet get itchy and it no longer feels good 75%, 80% of the time where you are, it’s time to seriously think about that leap of faith. And then to stop thinking, and MAKE YOUR MOVE.

The third crossroads: ready to thrive

I’ll be honest: some people never get here. Even for those who do want to THRIVE, it takes a good measure of self-awareness, focus, willingness to take risks, and universal timing. It happens when you’re in the right place, when you’ve put your roots down in the right soil. And you’re ready to grow.

And it’s a crossroads because often, it’s not obvious how to grow. You probably need to learn skills you’ve never needed before. You probably need to get way outside your comfort zone, and risk looking dumb, and make some mistakes (a lot of mistakes), to really grow and thrive. But it’s all possible. It’s all exciting.

So even if you’re an expert at what you do, put your humility hat on and be open to stumbling. Double your rate of failure. Paradoxically, it’s the fastest path to thrive.

So, where do you stand? 

Which crossroads are you hanging out at, and are you feeling the nudge to move forward? Just standing there gets old pretty quickly, so let this be your invitation to take action without delay. What are you waiting for?! (actually though, what are you waiting for?)…

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When to talk flex: landing a job when you have a life

I get a lot of questions about landing a new job. People ask me this: when do I break the news that I have commitments outside of work?

First, let’s step back and acknowledge how dysfunctional our relationship with work has become (personal mission: working on it).

Why is this even a question? Well, because of the work cultures many of us have experienced (North America, I’m raising our collective hand here). We feel nervous and ashamed, like, how dare we have commitments outside of work? And we assume that most jobs, most workplaces, won’t or can’t tolerate flexing to accommodate that fact.

Certain life commitments make us squeamish when interviewing.

The most prominent example is childcare drop off and pickup. For working parents, this can be a huge concern. Not to mention spending time with said child(ren) outside of work.

But there are other examples: like the fact you have vacation booked shortly after your potential start date, or you’ve signed on to take a course that happens every Tuesday at 11:00am for the next year.

Often the instinct (especially for women!) is to bring these little “limitations” up early in the process, so that if it’s a non-starter, then we can all stop “wasting our time” and part ways in mutual understanding. Ladies. Please stop doing that.

Remember how recruiting works.

The recruiting process is not perfect. In the early stages, it’s a numbers game: the goal is to narrow the candidate pool to those who have very strong experience and, often, no complications. Think about the whole “I saw a typo on the resume and I threw it away” mentality.

Imagine how leading with the logistics of your life is going to feel to your potential employer. Yes, it might be FINE… if they’re one of the progressive ones who have navigated this before, and/or have and understand their own policies on this topic, and/or have precedents, etc. But for a lot of employers? Potentially a roadblock. Potentially a headache. Potentially not worth it.

But you, my friend, ARE worth it! So you need to sell yourself first.

I’m going to assume you want the role because of the role (not because of the hours). I’m going to assume you’ve done the hard work to figure out what you want to be doing with your +/-2,000 working hours per year, and that this role really interests you (*and if that’s not the case, let me help you!).

Assuming you want the role, I want you to have the best shot you can. AKA your first and only task in the interview process is to sell yourself as the best candidate for the role (sidenote: I created an amazing free resource to help you do that – you can grab it HERE). Along the way you’ll come to a view about whether you like the company, the mission, the manager, and anything else that matters to you, enough to actually take it.

I want you to think about the circumstances around your childcare, vacation, and hobbies (not putting these on equal footing BTW, just listing outside-of-work demands) as being personal to you and your life – because they are. When it comes to interviewing and landing your next role, they are a footnote. If you lead with them, I’m here to tell you that you are self-sabotaging.

A Thanksgiving metaphor.

Imagine you’re cooking a turkey for Thanksgiving dinner. And if you’ve done this, you know you’re probably all over Pinterest researching oven temperatures, times and monitoring procedures (and if you haven’t, you’d be amazed the range of possibilities on this topic!).

Is the temperature and cooking time important to your guests? No. They are interested in eating a delicious turkey. And that’s the same with your boss.

What you have to offer is your output. Let’s say that again: what you have to offer is your output. So, how you cook your turkey does not matter. If you plan to leave at 3:50pm every day, well, that is a minor factor that you probably will want to tell your boss, eventually, simply so she doesn’t wonder where you’ve gone (and pretty sure where you’re going, there’s cell reception, if absolutely needed).

Worst case scenario.

If you follow this advice, the absolute worst case scenario is that you land the job (confidence boost!), and then it doesn’t work out, and you won’t have it anymore. Which is the position you were willing to accept when you considered sharing your “inconvenient life needs” earlier in the process.

Except in this scenario, you will have had the opportunity to go through a process, meet some people, and if absolutely required, navigate an amicable exit. I’m telling you: this is unlikely. And if you’re in the tiny percentage of people who is going through it and in a panic: you can always contact me and I’ll get you through it 🙂

Bottom line.

A few truths: workplace cultures and individual managers vary on this, and some aren’t there yet. Also, things won’t change unless we start to demand what we need, and then demonstrate that it is possible to do great work AND live our lives the way we want to.

So, when do you bring up your life logistics during the interview process, keeping in mind they may (note: they may not) impact your work? My advice is to first consider the the actual extent of said impact (likely minimal). If you do anticipate an impact, and you actually need to have that conversation, then do so as late in the game as possible.

Raise it only after your (potential) manager knows you, trusts you, and is solidly invested in having your turkey on the team. Then, how you cook it will truly be an afterthought. And when you do bring it up, do so like the competent adult you are: clear, unapologetic, and with a proposed solution if required.

We need to start thinking about work differently, and with your brains and motivation and today’s technology, you will get the work done! Let’s not sweat the details so much.

Talk soon, Warriors x

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Just because you can, doesn’t mean you have to

I’m kind of a hustler. I know some people don’t like that word; some days I don’t either. But I’m out there chasing, growing and building and trying my best to live an awesome and intentional life, and I call that hustling.

There are many days when things flow.

But some days it feels like pushing against a door that just won’t open. And when that happens, it’s usually because I’ve slipped into the energy of needing to PROVE something: to myself, to my people, to the world.

And that energy is bad. So lately when it happens, I take a breath and just…

Stop trying to prove everything all the time 

I’m not suggesting we shy away from proving things out of a fear that we can’t. Fear is what makes us think we need to prove things in the first place.

Try this: just because I can prove it, doesn’t mean I have to.

Just because you CAN be a VP at your company, doesn’t mean you have to.

Just because you CAN lose fifteen pounds, doesn’t mean you have to.

Just because you CAN write a book, doesn’t mean you have to.

Well, um, if I stop having to prove anything, what will I do with my time? 

Focus on fun instead 

Feeling like you always have to prove something is so heavy. What’s light?
Fun is light!
Remember fun? fun; fən; noun; enjoyment, amusement, or lighthearted pleasure.
We can actually figure out what feels right and aligned with who we are and who we’re authentically becoming by swapping in these five words: “for the fun of it”.

I think I’ll be a VP at my company for the fun of it.

I think I’ll lose fifteen pounds for the fun of it.

I think I’ll write a book for the fun of it.

How about “real life” stuff? 

Of course, some things need to happen and may not sound like fun.

I need to feed my children, several times daily, whether I’m having fun each time or not (sometimes yes, sometimes no).

But for those big goals, the ones you spend so much time thinking about and planning for and remodeling your life and schedule and well-being to make room for, do this check. If it doesn’t feel one bit of fun, if doing it for the fun of it does not resonate, then please:

Stop trying to prove it, stop trying to do it, just. stop. it.

Let the magic in 

If you think about it this way, a lot of things on your NEED TO PROVE list will get shelved immediately and permanently. Others will will be transformed into things to pursue for fun… and that’s where the magic happens. My friend, you just opened the door: go ahead and let the magic come in.

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Get sh*t done: paths to finding flow

When I was a kid, my grandparents took me to Casa Loma. It’s an historic stone mega-mansion in the middle of Toronto that’s now a public attraction. I was immediately obsessed.

Obviously I took the visitor pamphlet with the castle’s floor plan back to my grandparents’ apartment. And to my great delight, my grandfather, who was an engineer, showed me how to pull out the drafting table that he and built into his bedroom wall and use his huge sheets of graph paper and a ruler to enlarge the floor plan to scale.

Despite being under ten, for the next few hours I did this work with the intensity of a surgeon. My brain was in heaven – meditative, systematic, switched on, dialed in, with laser clarity of purpose. It’s one of the first times I can consciously remember being in a state of flow.

You may feel like you have difficulty focusing, but know this: your brain is designed to flow and it craves this state of intense focus and clarity. The more you flow, the easier it is, and the more you will experience it. Here are some tips for getting there:

Make it matter  

You probably won’t find flow washing dishes (although I’ve heard it can be pretty zen #notforme). Find a task that really matters, where you’re invested in the outcome. It should challenge you, but not to the point you’ll get frustrated and quit. This is actually a great test for any work you’re doing. If it doesn’t matter enough to inspire you into a state of flow, how much of a priority is it?

Choose work times intentionally

Do your focused, creative work when you are most naturally focused and creative. If you don’t know, you need to experiment and figure that out. For most of us, we do our best work in the early morning or in the evening. Turns out, our brain activity mirrors the activity level of the animals at the High Park zoo (go figure).

Give yourself enough time 

You also want to give yourself a window of time in which to enter the state of flow and actually get somewhere. If there was a city called “let’s honestly think we can do two hours of work in the next forty minutes,” I would be mayor of that city. I’m working on that. What I’ve learned is that it is WAY BETTER to choose just one important thing, and give yourself the forty minutes to go deep with it.

Help your brain avoid distractions

Does your brain love to be in the state of flow? Yes it does. Does it need help to overcome distractions? Absolutely. Do yourself a favour and set yourself up for success.

Clear your desk space (or wherever you’ll be working).

Have everything you might need within reach.

Remove distractions (close the fifteen other tabs, or disconnect altogether, put phone on silent or out of the way (imagine!), let your dog out).

Catch yourself

A final tip: catch yourself just as you are breaking focus and challenge yourself to prolong focus instead. While writing this, I’ve literally reached for my phone, caught myself, and returned to typing at least four times. And look, I finished!

There it is. To recap: make it matter, choose work times intentionally, give yourself enough time, help your brain avoid distractions, and catch yourself. What will you accomplish today? Here’s to you, finding flow.

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Gut check: four keys to evaluating your next career move

A lot of people are confused about when to make a move. Here’s what I tell them: if you’re feeling the pull, it means something. But if you’re not serious about a move, stop “window shopping” job postings on your bad days at work because it’s a waste of your time. Spend that energy making your current job work better for you.

That is, unless it IS time for a change. In which case, let’s do it. Here are four keys to ponder before you make a move. These four factors will significantly impact your success and runway in any new role. They’ll belong in a different order for different people (clarity bonus: go ahead and rank ’em). Here they are:

The skills and experiences you need for your long term plans

If you have a long term career plan, imagine what you’ll need when you go to get your next job – the one you want after this next one. Get clear on those skills and experiences, write them down, and put them front and centre when you’re evaluating potential opportunities. If you’re not sure, think about some possible directions you might like to go, and look for themes.

The manager’s ability to nurture you

I’m a big advocate for taking jobs based on managers. There is a massive range when it comes to managers and management skills, and you want to work for someone who is going to teach you, challenge you, and ideally, actively develop and champion you. To be clear: even your dream job won’t feel that way if you’re out of sync with your manager. Once you’re in the interview process, pay attention to your reaction to and interaction with this person. Most of us have pretty good radar for whether we are going to work well with a person or not.

The story you tell about your company and industry 

You may not think your company’s story matters to you over here in the Finance Department or wherever you are, but if you’re an aspiring minimalist and your company makes plastic sand toys for Dollarama that are designed to break after a single use, that is going to be a problem. You’ll be able to overlook it on your good days, but it’s going to be a problem on your tougher days. Choose a company and industry that you can feel good about saying out loud when your neighbours ask you what you do.

The lifestyle net impact 

Compensation, benefits and vacation days matter. So do working hours, commute, environment, colleagues, learning and development, and, for some of us, quality of in-office coffee and snacks. Consider all of it: what each day and week will look like as an employee of the company you’re looking at. And ask yourself if it’s an upgrade from where you are now, or just a change.

There they are, four keys to evaluating your next career move. To recap, they are: the skills and experiences you need for your long term plans, the manager’s ability to nurture you, the story you tell about your company and industry, and the lifestyle net impact. By considering all four, you’ll make a great move for your present and future. Good luck!

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Grace through change: returning to work after maternity leave

This post is not about babies or mothering or priorities or meaningful work or difficult decisions or finances or getting a tribe or a therapist or setting expectations or negotiating flexibility or guilt or feminism or all the things I promise I’ll write some day.

This post is about grace through change. Because regardless of who you are, the truth is that returning to work after maternity leave generally feels like a massive and terrifying change (even if you’ve never been more excited to get to work!).

I have this friend who actually claims that she loves change. I’m like, what?

Not that I don’t like change. I mean, of course, I am obsessed with personal development and evolving as a human being and that is all change, all the time.

But what about changes that shake up your world suddenly, like returning to work after maternity leave? Or adapting to any new routine (hello, back to school). Or moving and building up a repertoire of favourite spots in your new neighbourhood. Or moving in with a partner or going through a breakup. These are big changes. But good news: they usually feel bigger than they actually are. Here are some ways to handle them:

Honour that sh*t  

It’s happening. And it’s not easy. And you’re going to make it through. And in the meantime your going to get a little anxious. Just permit yourself to feel all of it. And cry or take a day or whatever you need to do to honour it and honour yourself moving through it. Change is not easy (except for my friend, #yougogirl). For most of us, it’s a challenge.

Lighten up 

I know, annoying. It’s like when you’re freaking out and someone tells you to relax. Not helpful. But try this: nothing is permanent, everything is a lesson, you’re on a journey, this change will come and go and soon it will be the new normal and you’ll be on to the next. The only sure thing in life is change. If you’re starting a new job, you’ll still have good and bad days, take vacation and spend time with your family and all the good stuff. If you’re moving, you’ll still eat breakfast every day (if you do that) and enjoy coffee (me) and find a nice place to go for runs (in my fantasy life). However big this change feels, it will not change everything; nothing is that powerful. So lighten up on the gravity of the situation.

Send that change some love 

Now if you’re like me, you might have some experience with catastrophizing that change to death. Like what is it going to feel like when you have to commute to work at 7am on a Monday in a blizzard in February and your kid is like “no mommy, don’t leave. why don’t you love me?”… Let’s just put that in perspective for a moment: that’s an imaginary thing that may or may not happen. So instead, think of some good things that are going to come out of the change and send it some love that way. Like how much reading you’ll be getting done during that commute. Or the amazing coffee you’ll be picking up every morning on your way into the office.

Change is actually good 

Because you’re going to grow! Baby, you’re going to grow so much from this. It’s going to hurt some days but it is going to take you somewhere you would not have been able to go without it. Even if it’s quickly out of this job and into another, or back home to care for more babies or into your own business or who knows? This change is a step on your path. It is actually good. Courage pants on. Hand on heart. Bring it on!

If you are heading back to work after maternity leave and want to talk it out, get in touch with me here.

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